We lie to our kids

We tell our children that they can be who ever they want to be in this world.  But what we forget to tell our little loves is that they just can't be themselves while doing it.

The social world sucks, especially when you are a child.

Alex came home yesterday with gum in his hair from someone on the bus putting it there.  Alex is smart, cute, loving and very lonely and bullied.  It broke my heart yesterday to try and explain to him that some people are just mean to those they think are different for what ever reason.  And unfortunately the only way to deal with it at this point is to stop acting like a target for the bullies.

He has really only one friend that he feels he can trust.  He does not socialize with other kids and does not want to either.  He does not trust them at all. 

He has had his so called friends try to beat him up, steal his things, make fun of him to get him in trouble, talk other kids (boys mostly) to be cruel to him, like put gum in his hair.  'Oh go a head and do it, it's only Alex.'

In elementary school some of the boys came up with this game, 'Don't let Alex touch you or get near you, you will get Alex cooties and die.'  The teachers did nothing, I don't even think they were aware of it until I told his 5th grade teacher.  He got pushed down a flight of stairs by another boy in 4th grade.  That boy's mom said it was fine that her son did that because Alex was in her sons space and where her son wanted to be standing, besides her son is slightly autistic.  Well fuck you bitch, my son has Chiari Malformation I, but you don't see or hear me making excuses for my kid to get him special treatment.  The opposite in fact. 

So, I had to tell my precious son that to get along and stop being picked on he would have to change and not be the goofy kid that he likes to be and sees nothing wrong with being.