How do you handle anger or resentment in your family? This is what I was so angry the other night about and told you I wish I could say something about. I have calmed down but it still angers me.
In my family we yell, talk, yell, tell the person we are angry at that we are angry and what we are angry about. Usually. This is what my dear husband and I do with each other and what we try to do with the kids. I am the most emotional individual out of the 4 of us, at least the most verbal about my emotions. I even tell my parents and my sisters when they have made me angry and why. We still talk and care and love each other.
Where am I going with this? What I am about to vent and relate is something that happened and I can not wrap my head around how a family can be so emotionally cruel to others in their family. What they did could be so much more worse than what could have happened and what some families have done to themselves and those they share a blood line with, or adoption line with. But here goes.
On June 11,2013 my dear husbands maternal grandmother passed away. His two aunts took it upon themselves to forbid any of the grandmothers neighbors or her in home caregiver contact his mother and let her know. Fortunately one neighbor, I think that is who it was, called my dear Mother-in-law to let her know that her mom had passed away. She did not have a date to give her because I believe she was in the hospital when she passed. My Mother-in-law was devastated that her sisters would not let her know that her mother passed. And she has every right to be angry!
Not only did her sisters not call her they did not list her and all the children in the obituary notice. Completely left them out, listed one sisters estranged husband, that sisters partner and one son. There are a total of 6 surviving children, 3 boys and 3 girls. I could not tell you how many grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Unfortunately the dear husbands family is not a close family, which I know that is why the dear husbands Aunts could cut off their own siblings from mourning their mother.
They do not have that choice to make for others. I know families don't always get along and there are some people that could care less to ever see or hear from family members for what ever reason. But someone else should not make that choice for them. They chose to continue their bullying by making a choice for the other 3 siblings. Not right.
I found the obituary on line and I was so angry at how her family treated her! You know family you are born into may not always see eye to eye, the same for the family that chose you or that you married into but to refuse to let you know that one of your parents passed because you don't like the other. Not right. Not right at all.
Elvia had 6 children. Memo, rest in peace and enjoy eternal heaven.
1 comment:
That was lovely my sweet.
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