Before you speak.....

Lately I have been reading with pain so many motivational sayings.  None of which grab me enough to hang onto for long.  I am so scattered with all the confusion and weight that I carry.  I did however find this one today on my Facebook feed, and an adaption of the same.  Here is the adaptation first. 









 Here is the one that was on my feed. 


















Why do I bring this up?  Because these are things we need to ask ourselves when not only are we dealing with other people in our world but when we are talking to ourselves. 

When we think about what is happening to us and we begin to blame ourselves for those things that we have no control over any more, (ie: what happened to us as a child, what someone did to us that took us off guard, a mistake we made because we allowed ourselves to be emotionally pushed into it) we need to remember to stop and ask ourselves if what we are calling or labeling ourselves is accurate.  I have a big problem with this myself.  I was always made to believe that I was the rock that everyone was supposed to cling to and I was not allowed to do the same.  Well not having learned how to ask for help instead of grasping like a frantic drowning person, well it has hurt me.  Emotionally, financially, socially, in all ways. 

I wish to educate as many people that I can, don't grasp, don't try and change others, don't expect more out of them than they can give, don't keep grabbing at the same person or people when you feel like you are drowning, and a lot more.  But......  Remember also to not speak or act in haste.  There are those that have done that, act in haste, in my life over the last years and the act of their haste is damaging. 

When you want to talk to someone do one of the above.  When you are talking to yourself, do one of the above.  I will be printing them out to put in my journal.