Toxic People and Me, maybe You too

There is a lot of talk and sharing on Facebook and Google+ about removing toxic people from your life.

It occurred to me today that the first thing you need to do is get the toxic out of ourselves. With in us each is a toxic person. We are toxic to ourselves and to others around us without knowing it. We also try to fix in others what we don't like in ourselves but we can not face looking at ourselves.

That is my theory for some of us.

I know for myself, not until I started looking at the toxic on the inside could I accept that there are toxic people reacting to my toxicity. My toxicity is the root, the beginning for the problem. NOT someone else. If I choose to say mean things and not mind my wording to another person, then of course they are going to react badly to me. I am not saying to pamper and coddle others. I am saying to use manners, grace and courtesy with yourself and others.

Blaming others, not cool. Not cool at all.

We make our choices for the reasons we make them. Everyone does. If we chose to look inside, see the toxic in ourselves, perhaps, just perhaps, there would less anger, less war, less hatred, less abuse, less divorce, less toxic people.

I don't need to learn how to deal with, get rid of or avoid toxic people.

I need to find, see, learn the toxic within me, love me and accept me and be kinder to me. Then and only then can I be kinder to others and others kinder to me.