Sunday, February 12, 2017

Ooops, I slipped again

Yep, I slipped on the wet floor of my anxiety and emotions.  All over being alone, no partner and the kids arguing with me because, well, they are either a teenager or a young 20 something.  At that age you don't need a reason to argue with your parent and get under their skin.  Anyhow, I have been very overwhelmed and stressed.  When you don't have someone to go to and share and cry, life gets a little more stressful.

I don't know why I get upset because I don't have a partner, I like not walking on egg shells.  I like not wondering if I have gotten home too early or too late.  I like not wondering that if I do something special for myself it is going to upset someone else.  Especially when that other person was always upset with me and would confront me about how I needed to change to keep him happy. Well, good bye to that crap!!!

I know the divorce was almost a year ago now but my therapist, and research I have done, says that for every 5-7 years you spend so very close to a partner that it takes anywhere from 6 months to a year for that base time period to heal well.  Then add on more time if you loved that person unconditionally and they forced you to be dependent on them.  Do the math.

Now......

I would like to go on dates once in a while, but I don't trust men very much now.  I don't trust many people right now.  I most recently had an educational professional lie to me to my face and then twist our conversation, which was a group class conversation, and construct a story to tell my boss. Lesson learned.  Can't trust anyone.

Question:  Am I in the right line of work if I have to take a whole day to recover from a week of working?


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